Who The Fuck Is Gentleman Modern?
I am a big fan of an Instagram profile, Gentleman Modern, that well represents the idea of cool from a photographer and art director’s point of view. Judging from its amount of his followers (151k), many people share the same vision.
Recently, Vogue Hommes featured the profile with the title Who the Fuck is Gentleman Modern?, and I was very intrigued by both this title and the concept. I started to ask around about what being cool means.
Is featuring sensual pictures, fast cars and vintage actors a good description of coolness? Is it machism? Can it be applied to girls?
It was interesting to read many different answers from my friends and followers. One thing was common to all comments and definitions, though: everybody wanted to be cool.
In principle, being cool means remaining calm under stress. The aesthetic of cool developed from the initial attitude practiced by black men under slavery as a defence mechanism.
Irony, detachment, and such chilled behaviours helped them to resist reacting to provocations and remain safe. Control, but also creativity and innovation became an essential part of cool.
Can A Woman Be Cool?
Is this for men only?
However…somehow men are supposed to be cool and women hot. Yes, a woman who controls herself and is creative at the same time is very much appreciated. But things are different for each sex. Here is how a film/TV/book writer, answers the question:
Men Are Cool, Women Are Hot
In Hayward’s definition:
Men judge by what they see
Women act to attract attention
Men act to appear in control
Women want response
Men want respect
Women work by giving or witholding love and care
Men work by giving or witholding allegiance
Women want to be part of a group
Men want to be part of a team
Women want money as it gives them choice
Men want money as it gives them power
Women are hot if they can control others
Men are cool if they can control themselves
Finally, a word about what is perhaps the most important phenomemon in youth culture – modern cool.
The Hip Hop world, the music and fashion industry, show business and almost every startup know how important it is to be considered cool – cool sells and it’s the goal to achieve, online and offline.
What is uncool is clearer than what is cool. Being cool is also a way too be liked and loved.
In my opinion, being cool isn’t that far from what psychology and psychotherapy always wanted to achieve: knowing yourself well enough to be able to use your strengths – and even weaknesses – at their best.
At the end of my little research, I asked the author of @Gentlemanmodern the same question: what is cool for you?
It’s about feeling comfortable in every situation, always feeling good in my own skin
It’s also about respect – I have been raised to treat the janitor and the CEO the same way
A great tip to be cool, and a concept that might go a long way.
Enjoy your Summer everybody, and keep cool!